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2 years ago | 26,907 notes

From birth we’re taught that we’re owed a beautiful girl. We all think of ourselves as the hero of our own story, and we all (whether we admit it or not) think we’re heroes for just getting through our day.

So it’s very frustrating, and I mean frustrating to the point of violence, when we don’t get what we’re owed. A contract has been broken. These women, by exercising their own choices, are denying it to us. It’s why every Nice Guy is shocked to find that buying gifts for a girl and doing her favors won’t win him sex. It’s why we go to “slut” and “whore” as our default insults — we’re not mad that women enjoy sex. We’re mad that women are distributing to other people the sex that they owed us.

Yes, the women in these stories are being portrayed as wonderful and beautiful and perfect. But remember, there are two ways to dehumanize someone: by dismissing them, and by idolizing them.

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David Wong, 5 Ways Modern Men Are Trained to Hate Women (via chirart)

Wow.  The way in which this statement resonates is really, really powerful.  It also goes a long way in talking openly about the way in which women who are portrayed with layers, flaws and strength that is normally reserved for a man in narratives are often met with extreme abuse across the board.

(via therearecertainshadesoflimelight)

(Source: cracked.com)

Via Certain Shades of Limelight
3 years ago | 195 notes

Project Chance: Trans Teen Superheroine

projectchancecomic:

I haven’t 100% settled on her name yet, but I’m entertaining “Ale.” That is pronounced AH-Leh. We’ll call her Ale for now.

Ale has been chosen for a dangerous task and given special powers to complete it. She has been promised a single wish upon completion of this task - anything at all in the…

(Source: exilecomic)

Via This is in my brain......
3 years ago | 19 notes
Army Special Operations Command has deployed its first teams of female Soldiers assigned to commando units in Afghanistan, and military officials are assessing their initial performance in theater as “off the charts.”
Army Special Operations Command has deployed its first teams of female Soldiers assigned to commando units in Afghanistan, and military officials are assessing their initial performance in theater as “off the charts.”
3 years ago | 13,644 notes

Boys are told from a young age that whatever they do will be excused under the “boys will be boys” mantra, and that “boys will be boys” mentality leads to what I call the “boiling frog” problem of women’s sexual boundaries. I call it that because if you put a frog into a pot of boiling water, it will jump right out, but if you put a frog into a pot of room-temperature water and slowly heat it to a boil, the frog will acclimate as it heats and never jump out, eventually boiling to death. Similarly, when we learn as young girls to tolerate “low-level” boundary violations like the ones we often are forced to suffer in silence at school, at home and on the street – bra-snapping, boob-grabbing, ass pinching, catcalling, dick flashing “all in good fun” relentless violations that adults and authorities routinely ignore – it makes it harder for us to notice when even greater boundaries are being violated, eventually leading to the reality that many women who are raped just freeze and fall silent, because that’s what they’ve been taught to do over and over since day one. You tell me what’s more infantilizing: repeatedly letting boys (and grown men) off the hook for their behavior because “boys will be boys” and we can’t ever expect any differently, or creating a consent standard in which all partners take active responsibility for their partner’s safety, and which acknowledges the truly diseased sexual culture we’re soaking in every day.

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3 years ago | 16 notes

In The Men’s Room(s)

rosethouartsick:

When I was young I believed in intellectual conversation:
I thought the patterns we wove on stale smoke
floated off to the heaven of ideas.
To be certified worthy of high masculine discourse
like a potato on a grater I would rub on contempt,
suck snubs, wade proudly through the brown stuff on the floor.
They were talking of integrity and existential ennui
while the women ran out for six-packs and had abortions
in the kitchen and fed the children and were auctioned off.

Eventually of course I learned how their eyes perceived me:
when I bore to them cupped in my hands a new poem to nibble,
when I brought my aerial maps of Sartre or Marx,
they said, she is trying to attract our attention,
she is offering up her breasts and thighs.
I walked on eggs, their tremulous equal:
they saw a fish peddler hawking in the street.

Now I get coarse when the abstract nouns start flashing.
I go out to the kitchen to talk cabbages and habits.
I try hard to remember to watch what people do.
Yes, keep your eyes on the hands, let the voice go buzzing.
Economy is the bone, politics is the flesh,
watch who they beat and who they eat,
watch who they relieve themselves on, watch who they own.
The rest is decoration.

Marge Piercy

(Source: scumtrout)

Via I Longfic, Therefore I GRRM
3 years ago | 3,976 notes

But what most men don’t realize is that all women in our society are on the receiving end of UNWANTED sexual attention at some point in their lives, and most of them get it a lot. Women are catcalled on the street. They’re harassed in bars, groped in clubs, and whistled at in the grocery store. They’re told that they need to be sexy to be valued and then they’re attacked as sluts. Simply put, women put up with sexual intrusion for most of their lives, in big ways and small. It happens everywhere and most men have no idea how much of an impact it has. I’ve heard quite a few men say that women should just take it as a compliment. Ironically, these are often the same guys who lose it if a man cruises them, winks at them, or simply appears to be sexually interested in them. Seems like a double standard to me.

Via X - Woman With X-Ray Eyes
4 years ago

Reaching Out to Afghan Women - Slide Show - NYTimes.com

Female Marines in Afghanistan

Latimer said that Afghans were more receptive when his patrols included the female Marines, who hand out stuffed animals to village children.

Villagers are often stunned, if not disbelieving , to see women underneath the body armor. Inside the compounds, the female Marines say they have been poked in intimate places by Afghan women, who want to make sure they are really women

4 years ago | 3 notes
via msnbcmedia.msn.com  2005 — The first all-female C-130 crew to fly a combat mission.
Check out the whole slideslow.  There’s pictures of an all-female Civil War squad, tons of nurses, and women in technical and law enforcement fields in the more recent fields.   http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/37272518

via msnbcmedia.msn.com  2005 — The first all-female C-130 crew to fly a combat mission.

Check out the whole slideslow.  There’s pictures of an all-female Civil War squad, tons of nurses, and women in technical and law enforcement fields in the more recent fields.   http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/37272518

4 years ago

My studies of folklore had indicated that in most oral traditions folk and fairy tales naturally contain heroines as well as heroes. However the tales we read in anthologies are not simply literal transcriptions of every tale in a culture’s oral tradition. First someone collects tales, selecting and transliterating the ones perceived as the best. Then an editor selects from among the collected tales, translates and possibly edits these tales to make an anthology. It seems that male editors have simply—and understandably—picked their favorite stories. As one man said to me, “Who wants to read ‘Cinderella’?”

—Kathleen Ragan, Introduction to Fearless Girls, Wise Woman, and Beloved Sisters

We accepted the revisionist Cinderella, patient and pathetic, forgetting how, in over five hundred European variants alone, she had made her way through a morass of petty politics or run away from an abusive father to win a share of a kingdom on her own. We let the woodsman save Little Red Riding Hood when earlier versions had already shown her—and her grandmother—the truly capable actors in the drama.
In book after book, film after film, we edited, revised, redacted, and destroyed the strength of our female heroes, substituting instead a kind of perfect pink-and-white passivity.

—Jane Yolen, Foreword to Fearless Girls, Wise Women and Beloved Sisters