”For the contingent out there who sneer at heroes like Superman and Wonder Woman and Captain America, those icons who still, at their core, represent selfless sacrifice for the greater good, and who justify their contempt by saying, oh, it’s so unrealistic, no one would ever be so noble… grow up. Seriously. Cynicism is not maturity, do not mistake the one for the other. If you truly cannot accept a story where someone does the right thing because it’s the right thing to do, that says far more about who you are than these characters.” - Greg Rucka
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newwavefeminism:“What I want to talk about is how emotional outbursts typically more associated with men (shouting, expressing anger openly) are given a pass in public discourse in a way that emotional outbursts typically more associated with women (crying, “getting upset”) are stigmatized. I wish to dispel the notion that women are “more emotional.” I don’t think we are. I think that the emotions women stereotypically express are what men call “emotions,” and the emotions that men typically express are somehow considered by men to be something else. This is incorrect. Anger? EMOTION. Hate? EMOTION. Resorting to violence? EMOTIONAL OUTBURST. An irrational need to be correct when all the evidence is against you? Pretty sure that’s an emotion. Resorting to shouting really loudly when you don’t like the other person’s point of view? That’s called “being too emotional to engage in a rational discussion.” Not only do I think men are at least as emotional as women, I think that these stereotypically male emotions are more damaging to rational dialogue than are stereotypically female emotions. A hurt, crying person can still listen, think, and speak. A shouting, angry person? That person is crapping all over meaningful discourse.”
Bullish Life: When Men Get Too Emotional To Have A Rational Argument (via introvertedactivist) (via vomohiper)
It’s really worth reading the whole article.
Not only are male outbursts given a pass, they are often placed at the fault of others.
If a white heterosexual male is angry in public, any “other” human will be automatically defaulted as the instigator in the eyes of everyone else. They will be more likely to be coded as undeserving or unworthy.
The safety of being an angry white man.
Also male anger is seen as justified. If women are angry, we’re hysterical, or over-reacting, or our concerns are dismissed until we can calm down. If men are angry, then BY GOD there must be something to get angry about!
I remember in the wake of the Penn State sexual assault scandal when I made the case that Penn State needed their entire football program suspended (the “death penalty” in the NCAA) with the argument that people do not report because they’re worried about hurting the football program, so therefore the consequences of not reporting have to be the total removal of that program. That way you’re actually saving the program by reporting, and endangering it by not.
I made this argument, and a guy I knew told me that I’m wrong because I’m being emotional and I just want vengeance and I’m not thinking rationally. And I kept stating that in fact I’m being super cynical by trying to prevent future cover-ups by threatening the only thing these people seem to care about: their football program. And he kept dismissing me over and over as being emotional and acting purely based on anger and wanting to lash out.
My male friend showed up and repeated the EXACT SAME ARGUMENT I made, with the same passion I had (which for me was construed as irrational anger). And the dude agreed and said that made much more sense, and thanked him for giving an actual rational reason why this should be done rather than act on emotion like me.
As a good friend of mine often says: male privilege, it’s a hell of a drug.
I DON’T CARE WHAT YOU’RE DOING STOP AND READ THIS
Ok Dr. Phil’s wife, Robin, (yes groan, but listen up) has this new app out (iPhone and Android) that’s for people in abusive relationships. It’s called Aspire News and it’s disguised as a regular news app, but when you go to the “Help” section of the app, it leads you to domestic violence resources and also has a “Go Button” that when you press it, if you’re in a compromising situation, alerts local authorities as well as local shelters and starts recording everything that is going on.
Now, if you’re looking up resources on the app and your abuser is near, simply press the X button and it brings you to a random news page. Same goes for the actual foundation site.
ITS COMPLETELY FREE
SPREAD THIS, DONT JUST “LIKE IT”
My brother is a nerd like I am but he honestly does not give a crap about Captain America and is pretty open that he was his least favorite character in the Avengers movie.
He had literally no interest in watching Cap 2 until we saw the trailer and he saw the Falcon and that what, 10 seconds or so of footage has got him to want to see the movie because he thought he looked cool.
That’s literally how easy representation is.
My auntie Nita has no interest in comic books or genre fiction and is now calling me asking me about Ms. Marvel because she heard the new one is a Muslim and says her daughter is excited.
Like shockingly PEOPLE WHO WEREN’T INTERESTED IN YOUR PRODUCT BEFORE MAY BECOME SO IF YOU MAKE AN EFFORT TO INCLUDE THEM.
It is literally that easy and yet somehow the entertainment industry continually messes that up somehow.
Heart attacks symptoms are different for women. I recently learned this.
Hmmm, I wonder how this is for trans men.
This freaks me way the hell out, because I feel like, as a woman, if I called 911 or showed up at an ER with all of these symptoms, I would be told to fuck off and have my panic attack somewhere else.
Here’s the thing.
Some white people can’t STAND that there’s a word that black folks are allowed to say that they can’t. They feel discriminated against like they’re at the back of the bus. They are angry.
Four hundred years in this country is white people telling black people what they can’t do. ‘You can’t go off the plantation. You can’t keep your religion. You can’t be free. You can’t vote.’ But in 400 years, black folks have asked white people not to do ONE thing: Don’t say that word.
And they still can’t do it. —
John Fugelsang about the N-word on the Hot Talk Panel at The Wendy Williams Show (via whatwhiteswillneverknow)
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People think that stories are shaped by people. In fact, it’s the other way around. — Witches Abroad (Terry Pratchett)
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Oh god thank fucking christ.
I usually don’t reblog these, but I feel like some of my followers could probably use the reassurance. I definitely have these kinds of thoughts sometimes.
so i’m not crazy for randomly thinking such thoughts? what a relief!
Edgar Allan Poe had a name for it too: The Imp of the Perverse. he compared the impulses to a demon that urges people to do the wrong thing simply because it can be done
The compulsion to jump from high places is called “l’appel du vide" in French. The call of the void. I think it’s specific to that one instance, but I think it’s a cool phrase for this phenomenon in general.
I think about this with random sharp objects laying around, too. “What if I just jammed this into my eye or throat right now? … oh god WHAT.” Just… fucking christ, brain. Don’t.
See also: An urge to jump affirms the urge to live (or an easier-to-read version here)
Huh. It never occurred to me that this was not a completely normal thing. But then I do tend to assume that my own experiences are universal (I need to work on that). I was in my 20’s when a podiatrist explained to me that I was probably born with flat feet and that, no, all people’s feet are not in constant pain every time they stand up.
For years, mental health professionals taught people that they could be psychologically healthy without social support, that “unless you love yourself, no one else will love you.”… The truth is you cannot love yourself unless you have been loved and are loved. The capacity to love cannot be built in isolation. — Bruce D. Perry, M.D., Ph.D., “The Boy Who Was Raised As A Dog” (via jerryhasabackup)
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